I know it’s a little bit late in the year to be talking resolutions, but at the same time: any day is a good day to change your life. So that’s why I wanted to talk a little bit about the concept of resolutions and how I’ve decided to approach them. Over the past few years I’ve been the master of overstretching myself in terms of resolutions. I think last year I had about twelve of them! While I got some done, and I wasn’t too strict on myself, in general it’s better to keep a narrow focus and just focus on one thing. That’s why I only have one New Year’s resolution for 2018. One focus word.
This year I am focussing my life on health. And not in that #fitspo kind of way, no. Real health. Mental health. Physical health. Financial health. Relational health. Just making the healthy choice for myself. Not putting too much pressure on myself, but especially being happy and healthy. Sounds boring, right?
But I think you can really get anywhere in life when you put your health first. I notice that I feel better when I really focus on my own health, and not just try to and get happiness out of external factors such as other people, or business goals. I feel more complete, more stable, more focused and it helps me keep a better eye on my priorities in life.
How often are resolutions and goals partially based on the ideas on what you have to be or certain achievements to get in this society? Because you see that your friends achieved certain things. Or because achieving that goal leads to external validation, admiration and compliments (e.g. business success or losing weight)? In contrast to something that you actually want to achieve for yourself. I am not saying that everyone sets goals for themselves for external validation, of course not. Generally, I did not either, I could easily decide for myself what I needed, and could let go of. But this year I am not going to set any actual goals for myself. I am going to focus on a better internal version of myself.
I am going to regularly ask myself: is this a healthy choice for me? Is this going to contribute to my happiness? And with healthy I also mean a healthy balance. I haven’t switched to eating only carrots, and working out every day, because living a life like that would catapult me straight into some kind of restrictive eating disorder. Balance is much better for me, in this field. If you know yourself, you can make healthy decisions for yourself. I’m leaning into everything, without forcing things.
The healthier I am mentally, the happier I am, and the more I can give my best in all aspects of my life. In my relationships, friendships, workouts, and also business wise. Because my work is still one of my biggest passions. Of course I also have goals for my company this year, but as with everything, my health and happiness come first.
I recently started meditating, and that is one of the healthy choices I want to continue (I recommend the Headspace app!). Furthermore, I avoid unhealthy relationships, and focus on the real healthy friendships in my life. I’ve taken a good look at my financial choices, and am trying to expand on what works, and let go of what doesn’t. I try to find balance in my physical health, get enough sleep and drink water. These are the kind of goals that I want to focus on in 2018.
What that means for me traveling? I also want to experience a little less stress there. Making traveling a more relaxed experience. That will undoubtedly fail soon haha, because I am very greedy when it comes to traveling. I always want more. But that is why it is also good to take a break and take stock of what is healthy in your life. Figure out how you can enjoy something the most, without always being busy planning the next thing.
Taking care of my physical health while I travel fulltime is also a major focus for me. Ofcourse, this means living an active and healthy life, but it especially means not becoming careless or reckless with my health. I’ve seen one of my friends go through the horrors of Dengue which she contracted in Vietnam, and she is still struggling with related issues six months later (back in Europe!). I’m basically bathing in mosquito-spray on a daily base to avoid contracting scary stuff like dengue and malaria. I’m also mindful of the fact that my body is being exposed to bacterias it’s not used to, so I take good care in where I eat and don’t drink any tap water, to avoid falling ill while I’m abroad, which is legit one of my worst nightmares.
Last year one of my main resolutions was to stop being afraid of things, and I’m continuing that trend this year, because I feel that a better grip on my fears is also a healthy thing. I no longer want to avoid things that I want, just because they scare me or they are hard. So far I’ve learned how to drive a scooter in Bali, and this morning I took my first surfing lesson. It wasn’t anywhere near as scary as I thought, though it was insanely difficult! I already feel healthier than I have in a long time, and just approaching myself with kindness and understanding works wonders!
I hope you’ll join me in focusing your life around health this year too.
What are your New Year’s resolutions for 2018?
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